Guess who’s coming for a visit? Lacy and Pierretta! That’s right! I had some airline miles that were about to expire, so I splurged and booked a trip for the two of us to come kiki in Orlando! We’re going to be in Orlando from September 4th to the 9th and would LOVE to see as many of you as possible! We have no official plans, so if you have any ideas, throw them our way! Let’s party!
i find it really relatable and fresh that audioposts on tumblr fuck up like this so often because i, too, freeze and release one loud, sustained buzzing sound when forced to expend any effort on anything at all
Silly question, right? If you define aging as a process that stops at death, the only way we’ll ever be the same age is if I die first. If you don’t, then we’ll never be the same age. Every time you age a year, I also age a year. Since our ages increase at the same rate, you will never catch up to my head start. We have achieved a total equality of aging, but that does not change the permanent inequality of our age.
Okay, say I have a million dollars and you’re completely broke. If we both get a dollar a day, how long will it take you to catch up with me?
Now, this one’s even sillier, because if you have no other resources, your dollar a day is going to be eaten up by basic living expenses that it doesn’t quite meet, and I have an excess of money that can be spent on money-making opportunities that pay off far better than an additional $365 a year. I could literally burn the dollar I’m getting as part of our Totally Equal Income and still make more money in a year than you do just by sticking my money in the bank.
But still: both of us getting a dollar a day is totally equal, right? It means we’re being treated exactly the same.
And now, final problem:
If we have a world that contains structural inequalities, systemic imbalances, disproportionate danger faced by some, and unequal access to resources and opportunities, is “treating everyone the same” really going to result in equality?
Show your work.
I may have reblogged this already but I don’t care it’s important.
And that’s before we get into the fact that even that example is very neutral - if you’re poor, people will GO OUT OF THEIR WAY to punish you. If you’re rich, people will even GIVE YOU free shit. It’s not just having a larger capital reserve to draw upon, there’s literal social benefit/punishment on top of that.
I remember a privileged guy I knew, having to go into the municipal water dept. to pay a bill, in person, for the first time and being amazed at how shitty everyone was being treated.
there’s a lot of unspoken pressure to keep liking the things you used to like and to keep dressing the way you’ve always dressed and to never question what you believe in and basically “be yourself” has slowly morphed into “be what everyone knows you as” but trust me when i say if you just give it up and simply make decisions and take actions based purely on what would make you happy, you’ll gain a very comforting sense of self peace
Side note- I feel like I haven’t received a follow up to a private ask response in a really long time? If you’ve sent me an ask recently and not gotten a response there’s a 99% chance that tumblr ate either my response or your follow up message and I’m not sure what to do about that???
I'm really confused about my gender. I FEEL like a girl and I AM a girl but at the same time it's like I'm something that isn't quite just male or female. I like being feminine but I don't exactly connect with the image of the average cisgendered woman. I don't know if it's my subconscious being weird or what because I've been thinking about it more and more lately and wow it's just causing me a whole lot of stress and I felt like I needed to tell someone.
How you identify is something only you can decide! That may sound stressful but the good thing is that you have total control over that and are allowed to change your mind if at some point down the road you feel differently. It’s ok to be a cis girl who doesn’t quite fit the standard (what even is the standard anyway?), and it’s also ok to be a female-assigned person who is feminine without identifying as female. I also struggled a lot with figuring out where I fit in once I learned that nonbinary genders are a thing (really the more you think about gender the less sense it makes, and the whole thing starts to get super overwhelming), and my advice to you would be:
-Write down what you’re feeling. Keeping a log of your gender thoughts when you’re feeling lost can help to make sense of everything -Find someone who seems to have a similar experience who you can discuss with and bounce ideas off of (I will happily volunteer for this, and if you want to come off anon so we can discuss privately I promise that I won’t reveal your identity publicly) -Start thinking of yourself in different terms to try on different hats and see how comfortably they fit; refer to yourself using different pronouns or titles (like using “person” instead of “girl”) and pay close attention to how it feels when other people refer to you as such. If you want to keep it private it does work to just do this in your own head, but it can also be helpful to seek out a safe space (a group of friends you feel comfortable with, an online community, etc.) where you can experiment with how you identify and how you want others to refer to you. -Here's an interesting blog that was created just for this purpose!
I hope that’s helpful and feel free to message me again if you need someone to talk to! Also, any non-cis followers who have any advice on the subject, send it on over!
We live in a society that’s sexist in ways it doesn’t understand. One of the consequences is that men are extremely sensitive to being criticized by women. I think it threatens them in a very primal way, and male privilege makes them feel free to lash out.
This is why women are socialized to carefully dance around these issues, disagreeing with men in an extremely gentle manner. Not because women are nicer creatures than men. But because our very survival can depend on it.
if you’re nonbinary and you ever need a quick little pick-me-up, just remember that nearly all the legendary pokémon are also nonbinary, and they’re the most powerful, badass, and sought after pokémon in the franchise ∩(︶▽︶)∩
“Fashion design is not about revealing or accentuating the shape of a woman’s body ; its purpose is to allow a person to be who they are. Fashion is interesting because it’s always moving. It always relates to social movement, politics and the current financial situation.”—Rei Kawakubo in i-D, 1992 (via lavandula)