I know right! For the first two and a half days I was debating between that and a giant flag of this design, but after realizing that with the bandana I could fold Monkey’s face in half and do as pictured, I was sold. (Not to mention the fact that having that design huge on my wall would be kind of terrifying at night)
Saw both these bands the night before I left for California and they’re fantastic and you should support them- the former being a new project by several friends of mine, and the latter being a group I’d never heard of until the show but who completely blew me away.
They both have their music available to listen to for free, so there’s really no excuse not to!
Anonymous asked: My friends all have the same sense of humor that grates on my nerves, where they think its okay to say racist and sexist shit all the time because they’re not “actually” like that. Whenever I call them out on it, I just get brushed with an “I know, I don’t actually think that, I have black friends, I respect women, etc” and make me feel like I killed the mood. You’re way better at articulating yourself when it comes to these things so… is there anything you think I could say that is better?
Honestly, this still works for me most of the time, at least in a sense to shame people into silence and make them feel embarrassed. The key to this is stating this completely deadpan. The next time a friend of yours makes a racist or sexist joke, look them straight in the eye and say, “I don’t get it. What do you mean?”
You may eventually get the same result if someone is that thick, but as they struggle to explain their joke and the only option left for them is “Sometimes black people are different,” or “Women are totally emotional,” they might suddenly stop talking because they’ve had to spell out their own gross behavior. It’s REAL satisfying to watch it happen, by the way.
However, there comes a time when it becomes too much, especially if you yourself are one of the members of a group your friends joke about. I have had this happen too, where white friends or straight friends were making jokes about Mexicans or being gay and no matter how many times I brought up how uncomfortable it made me feel, they kept going.
Cut ‘em out of your life. You don’t need that kind of toxicity around you, and I’m a big supporter of the idea that we need to keep our mental well-being (in terms of our own happiness and self-worth) as a priority in our lives when we can. It’s okay to say to yourself and others, “I can’t be around you any longer.” That took me so long to accept! So now I just surround myself with AWESOME people who are AWESOME ALL THE TIME, and I feel a whole lot better about things.
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As much as I’ve always tried to distance myself from any sort of social label, whether it be a fandom or a subculture or whatever else, I am really proud to be an Infernite. Despite all the grumbly people who will say otherwise, I think this scene is amazing. I still can’t get over everything that has happened these past several days, or even that it happened at all. I feel like I’ve made almost this exact post multiple times about different events, but I swear, this band has changed my life to the point where if you told me a few years ago about what I just did this weekend, I would flat out not believe you. Infernites have such an unusual and amazing spirit and I’m just really excited to be a part of it.
P.S.- Anyone who’s able to go to any part of this tour should do so. Seriously. Dooooo iiiiit.